The Parent and The Child

There are so many things happening in a family especially in the relationship of the parent and the child.As a parent who completes the role as aguide for their child or as a child who is still making his/her dreams comr true,there are still challenges to face and to survive.There are things which are hard to organize between the parent-child relationship There are things which are not yet clear and things that are need to be learned in such a way the relationshipwill stay strong.

Often many discussions and misunderstandings happen.This is because of the opposite likes,too much love,strict parents or the parent is not yet ready to consider some things.As a child,I have experienced them all.I can feel the feeling of a child when they find their difficulties explaining of what he/she has done.I can also feel a heavy heart whenever the things I want to say are kept and I want to burst!Why can't I say it?!It's because I don't want to add up to the confrontations if ever I open up my feelings.Sometimes,our parents are having a hard time dealing with us as we are with them.There are many of us who does not understand,who gets angry because of the discipline made by our parents and also for the rules in the household which sometimes make us sick!There are parents who forbids so many things which gives the child an impression of controlling him/her.They are the ones who decide what their child must do.The children are the ones pressured in the situation.There are children who tries to understand but there are ones who disobey what their parents want."Why don't they understand thet I'm old enough to know which is wrong or right?!".This is always the question on the child's mind in such situations.Because there are parents who forbid and do not explain why they do so,the child thinks of reasons which are often wrong and mislead the child.Parents must give their child much informations so their child can understand and obey them wholeheartedly.Parents must also give support because no one else knows what their dreams are but the children themselves.

Another situation which makes things difficult for a child are the BIG expectations from the people around them,especially,of course,their parents.Parents always hope that the child is a replica of them,follows their footsteps and as 'perfect' as the elders in the family.These expectations create pressure and persuades the child to reach it.But then,it will create more difficulty.For example:the child had given the best but sill he/she has not met the expectations.The parents must know the abilities and capabilities of their child so they can estimate as to where their child can reach and lessen difficulties.Children are humane not robots who parents can dictate forever.For instance,children are not 'perfect' and make mistakes.

Communication gap.Another problem in the said relationship.Parents are usually not at home,working and not realizing that their child needs more than the money they can give.the child needs their presence,love and care.But it is also wrong to rebel against your parents.Rebellion is not the answer.Let us understand that they are doing this for our sake.Things must be balanced."Give and Take" as they always say.Let us open our minds and hearts to accept mistakes and search for forgiveness.Be patient and loving.Support and happiness gives much help in the family.The memebers of the family must also respect each other.Let us do this to have a peaceful and happy family.